middle age

Middle aged? My middle finger I am!

My little darlings informed me recently that I was ‘middle-aged’. While my brain screamed “WTF?” my mouth worded: “Excuse me?” Apparently the topic had been discussed in Miss 12’s Year 7 health ed class and at 45, I slotted into the bracket of middle age. The look on my face soon had my Mr 10 clarifying that actually, “Dad is …

Perfectionism is fear by another name

This week, my daughter and I both learned a lesson in perfectionism and letting go. She’s not aware of it, but I am – her lessons are my lessons too, or so I am learning. A small slip up one morning, one that really was of no consequence and not of her own fault but caused by a lack of information, …

Stop using the f-word

For a long time, over the past year or so, I’ve been trying not to use the f-word. Not that one. I say that all the time. Most likely I always will. I’m talking about the other f-word – fine. It was my default response to all the common questions – how are you, how are you going, how’s things, how’s …

You’re not the only one to feel bad

Why is it that we always feel like we’re the only ones? That we’re alone in our struggles, doubts, anxieties and guilt? Because without a doubt … we are all the same in these feelings. I asked readers to answer four questions in a quick survey. I read with a heavy heart the same answer after answer. You were all …

Is this it? Is this all there is now?

Have you ever asked yourself that question – ‘is THIS it’? Secretly felt alarmed that your perfectly normal life is not fulfilling, doesn’t measure up in some way, is unexciting, and exhausting? Wondered if this is it for you from now on? And then felt ashamed for having those thoughts because really, you should be grateful for being a mum? I have. It’s part …

Have you labelled yourself?

We all attach labels to ourselves – it is how we describe who we are – but we can become too attached to a label for our own good. The label of mother is particularly intoxicating to some of us and when it becomes that way, we can lose any perspective of our own lives and can undermine all our …

Fatigued to fabulous in simple steps

Just over two years ago, I was sitting on the side of my bed, fatigued and overwhelmed, my head in hands, wondering how I was going to get through the rest of the day. I was exhausted, had aches and pains and felt way older than I actually was and it was making me feel miserable. The thought of where I might end …

Say no to diets

There are many ways to waste your precious life, but obsessing about your looks and your body is possibly one of the saddest ways. There are important health reasons for wanting to lose weight when obesity is involved but let’s be honest – most people who want to lose weight want to do it primarily for looks, not for their …

Beauty, skin cancer and the food inbetween

My skin and I have had a difficult relationship. In that I have found it difficult to deal with. As a teenager and adult I suffered acne, and for the past 13 years, it’s been about skin cancer. And particularly the skin cancer that has sprouted over my face and required treatment, after treatment, after treatment. I’ve been cut, stitched, …