stress less

10 ways to stress less in 10 minutes

Being stressed stresses me out. I literally stress about being or feeling stressed, and in the process, I make my stress worse. It’s because I know how bad stress is for me – I know it’s the number one thing linked to all major diseases and illnesses – stroke, heart disease, cancer, Alzeheimer’s, autoimmune diseases –  so when I’m stressed, …

in your 40s

The perfect storm in your 40s: are you in it?

There is much about motherhood and parenting you aren’t told before you get into it and it’s too late to back out, but one warning that certainly isn’t issued is that if you have kids in your 30s, you’ll  be caught in a perfect storm of hormones and stress in your 40s. My mum was of the generation of women …

more than mother

Don’t call me mother (ep #44)

For the record, there are only two people in the world who are entitled to define me as a mother. They’re my kids. For the rest of the world: don’t call me mother. Don’t misinterpret my sentiment here: I love my kids, I’m proud to be their mother, I am blessed to have them and to be having this life …

stretched to limit

Stretched to your limit? Elastigirl you ain’t

I wonder if it was a coincidence or an act of design that the the mother in The Incredibles was given the superpower of elasticity. Because if there’s one thing a working mother understands it’s the feeling of being stretched to the limit. When there are competing needs or commitments pulling at our time and attention from all ends, we …

making time

Making time when you have none (ep #43)

There’s never going to be enough time. There’s never going to be more time. There’s never going to be a right time. Another time. The perfect time. None of those times are coming. The only time you have is right now. The only time you have are the minutes you are living right now. What you choose to do with …

routine habits

How to use routines and habits for better balance (Ep #42)

When it comes to getting everything done in a day, routines can be a blessing. We adopt them as soon as we become parents – the sooner that new baby is in a routine, the sooner we feel able to manage. Then we continue keeping routines because kids respond well to them. Then the kids go to school and are in …

international women's day

International Women’s Day needs to be about men too (Ep #41)

I am conflicted about International Women’s Day. I both love and despise it. I love that it celebrates the achievements of women. I love that it brings them together, to connect and form a solidarity. I love that it creates conversations about equality and helping women rise. I love that it highlights the fact that inequality is still rife and change is …

new you

New Year, not a new you

It’s not even the end of January and I’m already exhausted. I’m exhausted by all the New Year, New You malarkey that has flooded my inbox and social feed. Everywhere I look is someone exalting the benefits of turning me into someone new. The thing is, I don’t want to be someone else. I like me. I think the me …

balance

Balance is a misunderstood creature: here’s what it really is (Ep #38)

Very few, if any, women ever say they have a work-life balance. Not a good one, anyway. If you think of the idea of balance as if you’re on a see-saw, it’s not unusual to feel the ride you’re on swings from high to low and back again like a theme park rollercoaster, with your Supermum cape flapping wildly around …

Complete Life podcast

Ep 34: SHE is gone and in her place is a more Complete woman

Soooooo, what is going onnnnn? If you’ve followed me or the podcast for a while, you will have heard me mention or speak about pivoting many times – that I’ve done more pivots than a ballerina. And here is another one. SHE is gone, and in her place, is a more complete woman. The podcast is continuing but s h …

successful life

How to have a successful life even if you feel like a failure

Before I became a mother – back when I was just me – I felt I had an incredibly successful life. Certainly by all standard measures of success, it was. I had an incredible career that I valued above almost all else. I earned great money. I had (and still have) a great husband. We had (and now have a bigger) house in …