Minding your mind clutter

This is how I explain the headspace of mothers today: “If you want to know what’s going on inside my head, think of a computer with 236 internet tabs open all at the same time.” Next time you’re trying to explain your exhaustion to your husband or partner, feel free to use it. That is life as a mother these …

The myths of motherhood

There are many assumptions we make about motherhood and many of them aren’t true. Sure, you’ll be tired while you have a young baby needing regular night feeds, and yes, your tummy won’t just  pop back to the way it was before baby. And absolutely your hormones have a party when you’re pregnant and breastfeeding. But the assumptions that we’ll …

Five simple life truths

Everybody wants to be happy and have a joyful life but we so often unintentionally find excuses and create obstacles to make sure we never achieve it. We defer happiness until some fairytale comes true. Or we find reasons not to take the action we know we need to. We’re conditioned to believe that happiness and joy come from sources …

Your life is you, not your circumstances

Until not so long ago, my life had been a constant exercise of comparison and judgement. One of the stories I told myself was that I had to achieve to please. To be worthy I had to be awesome, at everything, all the time and one way I judged my value or success was to compare myself to others. I …

Fighting fatigue

Feeling tired has become a 21st century way of life, but we aren’t designed for it. Fatigue is not a ‘normal’ state to be in all the time. It has been normalised by the way we live, but it’s not natural. So it has a profound impact on our health and happiness. Mothers often put their fatigue down to just part …

I’m fakin’ it – my smile that is, and it’s making life sweeter

I’m experimenting with my smile. In that I’m trying to keep one on my face for most of the day. Not the toothy, forced type that might scare a small child, but a gentle, pleasant, peaceful version. In the moments when I would tune in to my facial expression, more often than not I’d find my teeth gritted and brows …

Finding a state of selfish grace

This afternoon, the mid-year school holidays will kick off here, which means ‘me’ time will be in short supply for a few weeks (more so than usual). While the holidays offer a break from the burden of packing school lunches and the pain of cracking the homework whip, they also mean the absence of peace, quiet and space, and limited …

When you know better, but stuff up anyway

Don’t you hate it when you know better but you screw yourself anyway? Those times when you know damn well that you’re making every mistake in the book and yet you keep on at it? I’ve been there again recently despite knowing a hell of a lot better. It’s like watching your kid fall – those times when you know …

Motherhood

Without doubt there will be tears tomorrow when my children present me with the collection of paper they have spent the better part of today turning into ‘Mother’s Day surprises’. Already I have the hand-written card the six-year-old made at school, and which I needed a teacher to translate the writing for me. The accompanying cupcake decorated in class was …

Do life, not chores: be a rockstar

One of the hardest things about being a mum is time. There’s never enough of it. Days are a constant negotiation between the things we have to do and the things we want to do, and it’s the wants that always lose. Those things like go for a walk, have a soak in the tub, sit and read, do a …