As a born worrier and someone who tends to live inside her own mind, I have a tendency to be too serious if I don’t watch it. All the time spent with my own thoughts, being thorough, can weigh me down, slow me up. It can cause me to retract and retreat, to shrink from life. It reaches a stage when it becomes necessary to lighten up.
I don’t remember it being an issue BC (before children). There was no uncertainty, and little responsibility. It was a ‘live in the moment’ life. A ‘do as I please’ life. Now, it’s an ‘is this the right decision’ life. An ‘am I doing this right’ life.
And, what I want it to be is an “everything will work out” life.
To get to that space, I need to lighten up sometimes. To do things that I enjoy, and find enjoyment in the things I do. It’s about experiencing joy.
Having joyous moments everyday is a key element of our health and long term happiness. Running around in the business of day-to-day often means we miss out on joy. We don’t seek it out but are happy enough if it lands in our lap. We might often question our happiness, but we rarely ask ourselves if we’ve experienced joy today.
Joy to me is the short bursts of glee or bliss or contentedness that comes from experiences I have. It can be as small as a good cup of tea or coffee in the stillness of the morning. Or sitting in the garden. Or eating home-grown vegies. Or on a bigger scale, the planning and taking of trips away, creating memories with my kids.
It’s about doing, rather than thinking.
Have you given any thought to joy in your life? What brings you joy?